I wish that I felt burdened to write a beautiful ode to mothers since it is almost "our holiday", but that's not what I'm here to do today. (If you ARE looking for the most beautiful and true mom's day post click here.) I'm writing today in hopes to open up dialogue on the topic of modesty. I hope you will enter the conversation with me.
I think you would agree that we live in a time where moral values have become unimportant and people, for the most part, live for self. Modesty is not something that is even considered in "the world" (apart from Christ, I mean), on the contrary; it is regularly laughed at. As I'm sure you have seen, being immodestly dressed is even considered trendy. This is the world in which we live. This is the world in which my children are growing up.
This is a bold (and probably unpopular) statement, but I believe immodesty is one of the biggest tools Satan uses to destroy innocence, moral values, families, and marriages.
Everywhere I turn I either hear it, see it, or read it: "beach body time!" "bikini season!" "get bikini ready!". The stores are stocked with teeny bikinis. Tis the season. We live in Florida and as the weather gets hotter the clothes get smaller.
When did we buy into the lie that it is okay to walk around wearing the literal equivalent of a bra and panties out in public? Really? I've noticed that the same Christian women who wear bikinis on the beach or at a pool would never dress in such an immodest way in any other setting. What makes immodesty okay in one place and not another?
I'm not just talking about the teeny bikinis, though. I'm talking about the skimpy dresses and micro-minis that are shorter than my undergarments. Then there's the shorts. The really short ones. The tops get pretty crazy, too...nothing is left to the imagination anymore...and I'm not talking about young college girls (although I could be).
I'm talking about what I see my peers, other mothers and followers of Christ, wearing at church and out in public.
Ladies, I don't want my tone to be judgmental. I just must ask why we insist on flaunting our goods. I believe that we are to be set apart, consecrated, in all areas of life including the way in which we dress.
1con·se·crate adjective \ˈkän(t)-sə-ˌkrāt\ : dedicated to a sacred purpose
I love that definition. "Dedicated to a sacred purpose". Ladies, our purpose is not to draw attention to our bodies. I like what Romans 12:1 has to say about the purpose for our bodies:
"I appeal to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship."
It frustrates me to no end to walk into church on a Sunday morning and have to cover my husband's and children's eyes from what women have on display. Ladies, how we dress affects those around us. Yes. Even the most righteous of men might be tempted to take a second look when you are showing us almost everything. In Matthew 5:27-28 we read:
“You know the next commandment pretty well, too: ‘Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse.’ But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt."
Ladies, I know this verse is talking about the men but are we not also guilty by causing those "leering looks"? Do we want to be the woman who causes a man to stumble? I know that I don't.
What about our sons? They are visual beings. Do we want them to be drawn into temptation, to lose innocence, to awaken love before it's time?
And our daughters? They are closely watching and will follow our lead. Do we want them to find fulfillment in the gazes of boys and men or do we want them to find fulfillment in gazing at the beauty of the Lord?
And what about US. What about YOU, sister? Where is your fulfillment found? If it is found in the glances of men (other than your spouses) than something is amiss.
Yes! I want that beach body. Yes! I want to be beautiful. Yes! I want to look amazing...all for my husband! I don't want to openly display to the public what is meant to be sacredly his!
I found this on Pinterest. I wish I knew the original source
So, those are my thoughts. I usually never ask for comments but I really want to hear from you. What is your take on modesty? Bathing suits? Lust? Ladies, share your thoughts! Share your resources for modest clothing. Men-this post was directed toward women but I really want to hear your thoughts, too.